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Who’s doing most of the talking in your bedroom?  If you say the “TV”, your marriage probably has some issues.

Tip Number 3:

Communicate in the Bedroom:  As we settle into marriage at midlife, things become routine and that tends to include sex.  Communicating with your spouse is extremely important on all levels---and yes, that includes the bedroom.  If you’re someone who can’t make love without the lights off or you must always be in the bottom position, why not try stepping out of your comfort zone and exploring some new ideas.

Try reading sexy literature to each other in bed.  Take turns being the narrator and if asked to re-read a particularly erotic scene, do so with a little re-enactment. Role playing can be very enticing and a lot of fun!   Women, in particular, enjoy the sound of their lover's voice as he reads steamy fiction to her in a romantic setting.

Don't be afraid to communicate your sexual desires and try to be as open-minded as you were back then.  But don't be afraid to let him know what you don't like.  He shouldn't be offended if he wants to please you.

Next Time:  Have a One Night Stand!