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May 21

2008

They don't want what you want

Posted by mrslightshining in success, independence, freedom, business, blog, African American

( I orginally posted this on my blog under a different title.

I'm referring to your children.

You may not be their hero and they do not want to go into business for themselves. Don't force it.

In this current age, children have to be able to use their own minds and be creative from their own hearts. Do not force a child to be your protege'; it won't happen.

With summer approaching, whether you have a teenager or college student, help them develop a creative edge and mind. What I mean is, ask them what they want; do not dictate to them the life you WISH YOU had.

Our children are our motivation. We can pray that they go further in life than we have or just pray they have a life. Parents make the mistake of thinking their children will go down the same road they did. They always assume that their child is an exact product of them. WRONG

Parents should recognize that they have raised them the best way they can and have nurtured them in the rights and the wrongs (hopefully biblically, too). If a young adult (18 and over) makes some wrong choices, parents can not re-raise them. It just won't happen.

So don't pass it on; your life, your history, your business, your problems, etc. Don't pass it on to the minds of your children. Negativity is death to the mind, heart and soul. Help them use their creativity to build something they want. Support them in the middle of their circumstances and in the middle of all of that...lovingly share LIFE.

Share life....if they don't want the life you have or even had, you can not force it!

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written by Roger Madison Jr. , May 21, 2008

Thanks for sharing this excellent advice. It is difficult for many parents to accept that their children want something different. Sometimes we just have to be reminded that they are adults, and you're right -- we can't re-raise them.

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written by Beverly Mahone , May 22, 2008

I believe children learn from mistakes made---as well as letting them know we've "been there--done that" The problem I see with many parents is they try to paint themselves as "goody two shoes" and chastise everything their child tries to do. They may not want what we want but they deserve to know the OPTIONS.

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written by Dana , May 23, 2008

Beverly I disagree; our options FOR our children or our options FROM our mistakes, as parents, is not what our children want or need to hear. Times have changed, lives have changed.
The bible tells us to train up a child.....(you should know the rest); how we train them is the importance. Parents are going to feel that they know it all or like you said are "good two shoes" but as a parent we have to look at what's best for our children..not sharing a lot of ourselves. As a Christian I always look up to the Lord for my guidance; with my kids, I keep my past out of the equation (unless they ask) and find out what they want.

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