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Once you settle into the routine of married life, romance starts to fall on the priority list.  In many relationships, it’s not intentional---it just happens.  When you’ve worked all day, cooked, cleaned the house, dealt with the children and unexpected problems, you can be pretty worn out by “whoopee time.”

Tip #4:  Have a One Night Stand!

Why?

• You can have time alone together without distractions.
• No meals to cook, dishes to clean.
• Conversations are not interrupted.
• Intimate moments can be spontaneous.
• No hurrying home to get the babysitter home on time.
• Romance comes more naturally.

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Who’s doing most of the talking in your bedroom?  If you say the “TV”, your marriage probably has some issues.

Tip Number 3:

Communicate in the Bedroom:  As we settle into marriage at midlife, things become routine and that tends to include sex.  Communicating with your spouse is extremely important on all levels---and yes, that includes the bedroom.  If you’re someone who can’t make love without the lights off or you must always be in the bottom position, why not try stepping out of your comfort zone and exploring some new ideas.

Try reading sexy literature to each other in bed.  Take

One of the topics I address during my seminars is on communication.  As a veteran journalist, I know how important it is to convey your message to your audience.  You must do it in such a way that they will understand you and appreciate what you have to say.  I also know it is equally important to listen to the message being conveyed in order to make sure I report the story accurately.

The same rules apply in a marriage.  You have to be an effective communicator AND a good listener.  Yelling all the time to get your point across will, more than likely, fall on deaf ears.  Also, poor

Next month, my husband and I will be celebrating our second wedding anniversary.  By all accounts, we're still newlyweds but sometimes it feels like we've been married a LONG time.

Nevertheless, we are still very happy and very much in love.  We are still learning about each other and not trying to change the things we don't like.  That's because we've learned you can't change another human being's behavior.  I believe you can change YOURSELF and that will change the way your mate responds to you.

Over the next 10 days, I'd like to offer some tips on how to keep a marriage successful and

Did You Know?

• 50 to 70 year-old women are about to become the richest demographic in U.S. history.
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• The 50+ market has $2.4 trillion in annual income, which accounts for 42% of all after-tax income.
• There are now more people over 65 than there are teenagers.
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