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My wife and my friends always tease me about the fact that I have a habit of seeing the good in people.  Like clockwork, they feel that I"m always looking to make the best out of a situation.

Well for me, it's a little deeper than that.

When I was growing up (and WELL into my twenties), I can CONFIDENTLY say that I was 'Steven Urkel'.  For those of you who don't know who THAT is, just know that I was a REAL nerd (or let some of my friends tell it, I still am. LOL)

When your self esteem about certain areas of your life is low, you tend to draw strength from other areas.  One of my

Ever look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself the question "What happened to me?" or "Why am I not attractive?" or "What ever happened to that kick ass woman or man I used to be?"

Ever think about what ever happened to the "IT" factor that you used to have.  You know, when you were afraid of NOTHING.  You knew you could another job in a second.  You knew you could blew away an exam without even studying.  You didn't care if that guy or that girl left you because there were 4 more waiting. 

You were FINE! You were all that and a bucket of chitlins! (That's right, just STANKIN for no

How many of you stress out over the smallest thing for absolutely NO DAMN REASON at all??  Come on now, raise your hand!!!  Let me see them!!

Yes, my hand is up as well so I can't talk. Well, I can but you know what I mean.

Listen, if you're like me, you wake up and your mind is moving at 100 mph.  Your mind is moving before your body kicks into gear!  Unfortunately, I run through those times when my mind takes me to places where STRESS and WORRY hang out.

Now, don't think that this is for those highly energetic people only! No, no, no!! Even some of the most laid back people in the world

Your story is NOT corny! Your experiences are NOT trifling!!  You have BEEN through more than you know!  Most importantly, SHARE your story!!

You know, alot of times, we underestimate the POWER of our story! I know of a woman who was gang raped at a young age.  However, she went on to become a successful business woman, martial artist (my karate teacher to be exact! LOL), and executive.  I marvel when she tells the story but it's important that she does.  Why?  Because so many times when we go through our life experiences, we treat ourselves as an "island unto ourselves".  We think that our

OO! OO! OO! I finally figured it out!  Get your tape recorders out.  I have finally found the answer to the great mystery.  You guessed it. The mystery of "Why are women and men friends?". 

Ladies, have you been racking your brains trying to figure out why your man still has that ONE female friend?  Fellas, are you scratching your head trying to figure out why your lady still has that ONE male friend?  Well, take some notes because I'm going to tell you.

Watch out!  Here it COMES in reverse order of importance:

Top Reason #5 - They don't use the same bathroom.  Now, before you go "HUH?"

Awwww, man, I gotta share this story to set this up right.  Years ago, my dad was dating this woman and he was playing with her by pushing her around and wrestling with her.  Now, she clearly didn't like this so she told my dad to stop.  Of course, my dad being hard headed kept on messing with her.  She warned him again that she did not like a man 'man handling her' and that she didn't like wrestling.  I say again, my dad being hardheaded kept messing with her.  The next thing I know, "PA POW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"!  That's right, she hit him with a two piece:  One to the gut and the other to the

Recognize this simple fact, we are ALL creatures of habit.  As we get older and 'set in our ways', we don't like to change.  Nothing wrong with that, that's the way we are. 

However, how many times have you found yourself in the unique position of getting a great opportunity but it comes with one little caveat?  That's right. You have to change something.

Think about it.  You got the opportunity to get a great new job with a great pay raise.  However, you gotta move to a different city.  You got the opportunity to sing with a major label but you have to sing backup to a major artist for a

Call it what you want.  You've been lucky!  You've been blessed! You've been fortunate!  Whatever it is, it was meant for YOU!!!

So many times, people want to you make you feel guilty because it looks like "EVERY THING" has fallen your way, the RIGHT WAY!  I've heard that so many times that people get beat up because they are made to feel bad because it really appears as if that person had every advantage!

Well, I'm a firm believer that the reason a person has so many good things happen to them is because those things are meant FOR them!  It's nothing special.  It's not because they were