08 Apr How can you love anyone else if you don't love yourself?

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For anyone reading, if you were never taught how to love, you can learn to love yourself by first realizing this truth: YOU ARE LOVABLE and GOD LOVES YOU! These are two facts. How do you know this? In Psalms 139 it says "for you created my most inmost being: you knit me together in my mother's womb.  I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful. I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth your eyes saw my unformed body." Earlier in Psalms 139 it says "Where can I go from your spirit? Where can I flee from your presence?...even there your hand will guide me, your right hand will hold me fast."
If God loving put you together, you know that you are not a mistake, were made on purpose and have a purpose. That you are special. Special enough to be formed by God himself. Therefore you are lovable and God loves you.
Second, you pick something about yourself that you like. It can be something small, but whatever it is, its yours. Love it. Loving it means taking care of it and nurturing it. And after you done that, pick something else about you and so on until you have done your whole body. Remember at all times you are special. Be gentle with yourself! : )
I remember when I started the process of loving and liking me. The only thing that I could find about myself that I truly liked were my feet.  So what did I do? I got some Victoria Secret Lotion Pear Glace. I would loving lotion my feet everyday. Then eventually my mother bought me a gold toe ring for one foot and I bought myself a gold toe ring for the other. My feet felt loved. I felt loved. Then I picked something else about myself I liked. My hands. I started to get manicures, and to keep my hands moisturized. My hands felt loved. I felt loved. I felt myself loving and liking me. Then I said to myself, this feels good. Let me do this to my whole body. And that's how I learned to love and like me.
What works for you may be different. Maybe it its your eyes, or hair, your pretty smile, or ears. Whatever it is, start some where.
Just know this. Regardless of the lies you were told growing up or even are hearing now, you are very special and deserve to love and like yourself. You should be having a love affair with yourself because if no one else on the planet is showing you love, you are showing yourself love. In the bible it tells you tell to love your neighbor as you love yourself. Most people focus on the love thy neighbor part. The key to the scripture is love thyself. You cant give love if you dont know love. You can only give like. And there is a difference between liking and loving. Liking makes you loyal to something or someone and you are using your brain to process these emotions.  Loving makes you feel with your heart, mind, body and spirit. It is unconditional, it goes the extra mile and takes you into the type of love that God feels for you.
Jesus asked us to dos one thing because he wanted us to feel what he felt for us. Jesus also loved himself. How do I know? In order to love us so well and unconditionally give of himself, he had to first love himself unconditionally. He could only give to us what he was able to give to himself.
Do you want to see your life improve, relationships be better and you be happier? Make sure you are loving all of yourself as best you can.
Well until I see your beautiful face, stay special!
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Lady Charmaine Day
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Lady Charmaine Day

Lady Charmaine Day grew up in Roosevelt (Long Island), New York. She was an A student throughout her school tenure. She was her senior class president, homecoming queen, yearbook editor and public school announcer. She graduated #3 in her class. Lady Day obtained her bachelors of science degree in Industrial and Labor Relations from Cornell University. While attending Cornell, she was a Cornell Tradition Fellow and inducted into the prestigious Quill and Dagger Senior Honor Society. Lady Charmaine obtained her master’s degree in Organizational Psychology from Columbia University. She served as a student senator while at Columbia, had an A average and was inducted into the prestigious Kappa Delta Pi and Phi Delta Kappa Honor Societies.

Lady Day is a seasoned business woman with over twenty years executive human resources and business consulting experience. During her tenure in corporate America, Lady Charmaine Day worked for Fortune 50 companies including Phillip Morris, FMC, Ingersoll-Rand, Nabisco, Porter Novelli, and Ketchum/Stromberg Consulting Division. She has worked for non-profit organizations including Lighthouse International, North General Hospital, New York Hospital and The Children's Television Workshop (Sesame Street).

Lady Charmaine Day is a pastor who is a leader cherished for her commitment to her community. Always funny and candid about herself and the world she helps to shape, in 2008 Lady Charmaine Day created an on-line ministry called Unlimited Help On-Line Ministry done through Lady Charmaine Day's website, app, and Taboo Talk internet radio show

Lady Charmaine Day also is an author and publisher of eight books: a Christian wisdom book called “Zero Mathematics: The Science of Today”, her autobiography entitled “Size 7 ½: Walk A Mile In My Shoes," her memoir called “One Step From Insanity: Actual Words From the Psych Ward," a book of wisdom called "Trinkette's Wisdom For Every Day Living", a book of self-help and sequel to her autobiography called "H.E.E.D. S.I.M.P.L.E." and co-authored with Brooklyn Mike aka Mike Troy, a book of Christian comedy/philosophy called "MINDF.U.C.C.," a self-help book called "Lady Day's Pearls Of Wisdom" and her latest book a business/self-help book called Cyber Hustle. In recognition of her book sales, March 2009, she was inducted into Barnes and Noble Hall of Fame.

Lady Charmaine is the host of “Taboo Talk” which she created and has been producing since May 2008. Taboo Talk is a live internet radio show on www.blogtalkradio.com/taboo-talk and Itunes.
From 2008-2010 Taboo Talk was a cable Television show that aired on Time Warner MNN in Manhattan and on BronxNet in the Bronx.

Lady Day has started her own line of clothing called G.I.R.S.H. (an alien nation with their pets). She also is a singer, writer and composer of music. In 2008 she released her first cd single called “The L.C.D. (the lowest common denominator).

January 15, 2009, she told the testimony of her life on Broadway at Terri William’s Open Book on Broadway to rave reviews. December 16, 2009, Lady Charmaine Day appeared on the Dr. Oz show that featured a panel of seven women who overcame their symptoms of depression. She was assigned to discuss weight gain as a warning sign of depression. In acknowledgment of Lady Day’s accomplishments, Cambridge’s selected her to be a 2008-2009 Who’s Who Among Executives and Entrepreneurs.

Lady Charmaine Day has been a mental health advocate since 1997. Since 2008, she has volunteered with the National Alliance on Mental Illness as a presenter and state wide trainer for their In Our Own Voice Program (NAMI IOOV). May 2011,in recognition of her significant contribution to their In Our Own Voice program, Lady Charmaine Day was inducted into the NAMI Hall of Fame. November 2015, Lady Charmaine Day was honored to receive the NAMI NYS 2015 Media Award for her outreach work regarding mental health.

Lady Charmaine Day is the consummate pastor who enjoys interacting with her audiences, therefore whenever she is providing a consultation or is in front of an audience you will be guaranteed that transformation will occur!

Website: www.ladycharmaineday.com